I am introvert.
Surprising, huh? Particularly to those people who know me as loud, enthusiastic, zany, never-shuts-up, and the one who always has a question.
But that’s not what introvert means.
This is a common mistake that is made about introversion/extroversion, and has been carried on around the web in various ways included billions of quizzes about whether your introvert or an extrovert by asking whether you like parties or not. Just to note; I like parties. Sometimes.
So what does introvert mean?
It’s about where you get your energy from. Extroverts get their energy from other people, introverts get it from themselves or from their surroundings. That’s all it is.
And that brings me back to the title of this article: My Essential Guide to Ignoring People.
I find it essential to recharge away from people. I have a job that means I am talking to people and around people all day. I find this very draining. Now don’t get me wrong, I love my job, but I do have to get away from people in order to fill up my batteries, otherwise I would fast become grumpy and irritable.
Some good tips for introverts:
- Be honest with your friends & family.
- This is so essential to living a calm and peaceful life as an introvert. Don’t try and make up excuses as to why you can’t see them, because lies can be seen through, and excuses eventually wear thin. Just make it clear if you need some time on your own, without making it personal. If they look put out, suggest a time to meet when you know you’ll be feeling refreshed, or more ready to be around people.
- Have your space the way you want it.
- I find this very important. I am definitely not the neatest person, and I even though I try to keep other people happy when they ask me to tidy (mum), I find that thinking about keeping my space perfect really stresses me out. I’m much happier if it’s slightly disorganised and topsy-turvy. It feels comfortable, a place I can retreat to. This might not be the case for you; it might be the exact opposite. You may need your space to be pristine at all times in order to feel comfortable. Whichever way it is, make sure that you’re happy to be in it, and that others know why you like it that way.
- Have a pet.
- I know this isn’t for everyone for a multitude of reasons. For larger pets (cats, dogs, etc.) it is a very serious life choice to bring a furry friend into your home, and not one that should be taken lightly in any way. For me, however, having a pet is one of the best things. I’m on my own right now, but my old dog is currently sleeping about eight feet away, snoring his head off. He provides me with a wonderful sense of comfort and companionship, without draining any of my energy because he constantly needs me to be “switched on”. He is just there, and he likes me to just be there as well. A pet is a very serious commitment, and one that needs a lot of thinking about before being taken on.
- Go for a walk in the wilderness.
- This links with getting away from people. I find it really helpful to get out and about on my own. Sometimes this can be challenging, especially if you live in a city, but even a concrete jungle is better than nothing.
- Have twenty minutes timeout.
- Sometimes that’s all you need. I try and get away from my office and from my desk for at least twenty minutes every few hours. Even if it means going and hiding in a meeting room with a notebook! If it all gets too much and the batteries are flashing on empty, sometimes just getting away from it all can be the little boost that you need.
If you’re an introvert, what do you do to help yourself out when your energy dips too low? Let me know in the comments!