I’m 25 soon! To celebrate that (and to start off a new journal), I decided to think up twenty-five lessons I’ve learned so far in my (relatively) short time on earth. I initially had this planned for one blog post, but then it just became way too long, so I decided to split it down into four lessons every couple of days for the next few weeks, and then the 25th lesson actually on my birthday… see what I did there?
Some of these lessons are little lessons, some are more wide ranging. Some I learnt when I was about ten, and some I’ve only learnt (the hard way) in recent months or years.
What did you learn in your twenties? Do you agree with these thoughts and ideas? Let me know in the comments!
1. Nobody Knows What They’re Doing
This is number one because of just how true it really is. I think everybody approaches adulthood hoping that some kind of plan is just going to materialise in front of them, and all of us a sudden we will just be an adult. There will be a moment where we feel truly grown up and think… yes, I have definitely got my shit together now. Well, that doesn’t happen. Or at least it didn’t for me. I figure that most people are just muddling on through, and some people are better at hiding it than others. After all, life doesn’t come with an instruction manual. We write the manual for things we have already done, so – like the best generals out there – we know how to fight the last battle we won. It doesn’t mean that that manual will apply to battles that are forthcoming.
2. Social Media Isn’t Real
Sometimes I forget this lesson, and I have to slap myself (mentally) to be reminded. Social media is a curated version of someone’s life that they want to present to the world; it doesn’t show the boring nights in and the spots on people’s foreheads. It is people’s “best lives”. Searching for validation on any form of social media is only going to lead to anxiety and heartache in the long run. My social media life tends to break down like this:
Facebook – The occasional rant, occasional political post, and recycling jokes/memes that I’ve seen elsewhere on the internet.
Instagram – The best damn pictures of my life that I can possibly take/find. Unless I’m trying to prove a point about something specific (i.e. tiger stripes (stretch marks etc.)).
Twitter – Literally zero filter. This is like the opposite of Instagram. I will tell the world when I’m feeling fat/depressed/sick/annoyed etc. I also swear a lot.
Snapchat – I don’t use it because – oh my god – it annoys the shit out of me.
3. Friends Aren’t Necessarily Forever
We all have our ride-or-die squad. Or at least we think we do. Now don’t get me wrong – I have great friends, and have had great friends at all different times in my life – right through primary school up to the workplace I’m in today. But friends aren’t always forever. I’ve had some absolutely amazing friend who, after a while, the friendship has faded. Possibly due to distance, time, or a divergence of interests/life paths. This doesn’t lessen what the friendship was, or diminish any memories we made together. Sometimes things exist in a specific moment in time and aren’t supposed to go any further than that, and that’s okay.
4. 23 Really Does Suck
Nobody likes you when you’re twenty-three – Blink 182
23 was definitely the weirdest year of my twenties thus far. You’re definitely no longer a teenager; you’ve probably finished university or are on a graduate course, but you haven’t quite hit the stride of your twenties/job yet. It’s a very “so… now what?” kind of age. It’s weird.
What did you learn by the time you were 25? Or, if you’re not there yet, what do you hope to have figured out by then?