25 Lessons In 25 Years: 1-4

I’m 25 soon! To celebrate that (and to start off a new journal), I decided to think up twenty-five lessons I’ve learned so far in my (relatively) short time on earth. I initially had this planned for one blog post, but then it just became way too long, so I decided to split it down into four lessons every couple of days for the next few weeks, and then the 25th lesson actually on my birthday… see what I did there?

Some of these lessons are little lessons, some are more wide ranging. Some I learnt when I was about ten, and some I’ve only learnt (the hard way) in recent months or years.

What did you learn in your twenties? Do you agree with these thoughts and ideas? Let me know in the comments!

Birthday Cupcakes
Best thing about birthdays: cake!

1. Nobody Knows What They’re Doing

This is number one because of just how true it really is. I think everybody approaches adulthood hoping that some kind of plan is just going to materialise in front of them, and all of us a sudden we will just be an adult. There will be a moment where we feel truly grown up and think… yes, I have definitely got my shit together now. Well, that doesn’t happen. Or at least it didn’t for me. I figure that most people are just muddling on through, and some people are better at hiding it than others. After all, life doesn’t come with an instruction manual. We write the manual for things we have already done, so – like the best generals out there – we know how to fight the last battle we won. It doesn’t mean that that manual will apply to battles that are forthcoming.


2. Social Media Isn’t Real

Sometimes I forget this lesson, and I have to slap myself (mentally) to be reminded. Social media is a curated version of someone’s life that they want to present to the world; it doesn’t show the boring nights in and the spots on people’s foreheads. It is people’s “best lives”. Searching for validation on any form of social media is only going to lead to anxiety and heartache in the long run. My social media life tends to break down like this:

Facebook – The occasional rant, occasional political post, and recycling jokes/memes that I’ve seen elsewhere on the internet.

Instagram – The best damn pictures of my life that I can possibly take/find. Unless I’m trying to prove a point about something specific (i.e. tiger stripes (stretch marks etc.)).

Twitter – Literally zero filter. This is like the opposite of Instagram. I will tell the world when I’m feeling fat/depressed/sick/annoyed etc. I also swear a lot.

Snapchat – I don’t use it because – oh my god – it annoys the shit out of me.

3. Friends Aren’t Necessarily Forever

We all have our ride-or-die squad. Or at least we think we do. Now don’t get me wrong – I have great friends, and have had great friends at all different times in my life – right through primary school up to the workplace I’m in today. But friends aren’t always forever. I’ve had some absolutely amazing friend who, after a while, the friendship has faded. Possibly due to distance, time, or a divergence of interests/life paths. This doesn’t lessen what the friendship was, or diminish any memories we made together. Sometimes things exist in a specific moment in time and aren’t supposed to go any further than that, and that’s okay.

Photo by Simon Maage on Unsplash

4. 23 Really Does Suck

Nobody likes you when you’re twenty-three – Blink 182

23 was definitely the weirdest year of my twenties thus far. You’re definitely no longer a teenager; you’ve probably finished university or are on a graduate course, but you haven’t quite hit the stride of your twenties/job yet. It’s a very “so… now what?” kind of age. It’s weird.


What did you learn by the time you were 25? Or, if you’re not there yet, what do you hope to have figured out by then? 

8 thoughts on “25 Lessons In 25 Years: 1-4

  1. 25 is so long ago I truly cannot remember what I learnt when. But I was in Lancaster and did encounter influences that shaped my life – vegetarianism, politics of food and eating, feminism and sexual politics, alternative ways of doing things. I was an early member of the Single Step Collective that apparently still flourishes in Penny St. Good times, exciting times.

    1. Can’t say I’ve heard of the Single Step Collective! What is it? Is it something I should check out? 🙂

  2. Life is so unfair because you go through life unprepared then look back and think If only I had done that then, or appreciated that more….
    If I could go back and be an age, personally I liked 32, Old enough to know enough and young enough to still enjoy it. I’m 40 now… One thing you never look back on and regret is having fun. No one has ever looked back and said, oh I had far too much fun when I was younger. 😉

    1. Hahaha, that is very true. I think that’s part of it though, we have to accept that we don’t know everything at the time and learn when we do. I think it’s especially hard when you’re a teenager and everything is changing so rapidly. I like to think that mid-late twenties is when you reach this sort of equilibrium!

  3. You’re spot-on–especially with No. 3! This, I didn’t understand when I was 25, that’s for sure. And I kept trying to connect with those friends that I was friends with at a certain point of life–and things wouldn’t “gel” anymore. That’s one thing social media is good for–keeping in touch without necessarily devoting whole weekends to pretending like we’re clubbing in college again. That was fun then–and the memories are fun now. But there’s other stuff that’s more fulfilling at this stage of life. Wow, I’m so old. Enjoy your birthday–eat extra cake!

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