I’m 25 soon! To celebrate that (and to start off a new journal), I decided to think up twenty-five lessons I’ve learned so far in my (relatively) short time on earth. I initially had this planned for one blog post, but then it just became way too long, so I decided to split it down into four lessons every couple of days for the next few weeks, and then the 25th lesson actually on my birthday… see what I did there?
Some of these lessons are little lessons, some are more wide ranging. Some I learnt when I was about ten, and some I’ve only learnt (the hard way) in recent months or years.
What did you learn in your twenties? Do you agree with these thoughts and ideas? Let me know in the comments!
9. You Can Count Your True Friends On Your Fingers
If you needed someone at 3am, who could you call (Ghostbusters! *ahem*… sorry)? The names you come up with – these are the people who are your real friends – the ones who would be there for you when you really needed it. This isn’t to say that your casual friends and good time gals aren’t friends – of course they are, they’re just not your true friends (probably). The ones who would be there for you no matter what, the ones who if you murdered someone they’d help you hide the body etc. They’re the ones who will last.
10. Your Likes & Dislikes Will Change
I used to hate mushrooms. Now I like them. I used to hate melted cheese; I used to scrape it off pizza (I know, who does that?). Now I’ll eat anything with cheese on it pretty much. As you get older your tastes in music, food, films, and most importantly people will change. That’s normal, and to be welcomed. Don’t spend time trying to fight it because you want to be in a certain “niche” (I spent many years not allowing myself to listen to certain types of music because I was “betraying” my rock n roll roots – what bullshit). Things I would like to get a taste for after I turn 25; red wine and beer. Who cares that they’re both alcoholic? Oh well…
11. If People Want To Be With You… They Will Be
I WISH I HAD KNOWN THIS WHEN I WAS SEVENTEEN.
I saw this a few months ago, and after thinking about it for a while it really struck a chord with me. You shouldn’t have to fight to make someone be with you. It really shouldn’t be that hard. It shouldn’t be that painful. If someone wants to be with you… they will be.
“Oh his phone died”/”Oh he’s busy”/”He just has to wash his cat” – bullshit, motherfucker. If he wants to be with you, he will come through. Don’t waste your time chasing after someone who is only causing you pain and who isn’t pulling their own weight.
12. Time Speeds Up
This isn’t so much of a lesson as a fact. Think about it. Of course time doesn’t actually speed up (the measurement of time is a human construct anyway, but the passing of it has to be measured somehow). What I mean is that it seems like time speeds up. When you’re five, a year is only 1/5 of your life – it seems like a really long time. When you’re twenty-five, a year is 1/25 of your life – therefore it seems a lot faster. In this vein, it appears that time speeds up. Take that Einstein.