25 Lessons in 25 Years: 13-16

What did you learn in your twenties? Do you agree with these thoughts and ideas? Let me know in the comments!


13. I Enjoy Spending Time On My Own

This is something that I’ve realised as I’ve grown older. The thing I’ve realised alongside that is that it’s okay to want to spend time on your own. I work with people all day and I’m not ashamed to admit that after I while I need to be by myself in order to recharge. I like people and thrive off their ideas and their energy, but I can’t be around that all the time otherwise I feel super wiped out.

14. Be Kind To Other People

It’s not that this just goes without saying, it is that I truly believe that what goes around comes around. If you’re nasty to people, people will be nasty and/or ignore you. If you’re nice to people, then they will probably be nicer to you. Kant would say that that was immoral because I am doing it for personal gain. I can’t say that personal gain is at the top of my mind when I ask if some old lady needs help with her shopping (cliche abound), but as I said; what goes around, comes around.


15. And Be Kind To Yourself

Equally, if not more important, than the rule above. You are only human and there is only so much you can do. Even Michelle Obama and Beyoncé have their bad days; just because we don’t see them doesn’t mean that they don’t happen. We all have skills and talents that make us special. Don’t just focus on your flaws – but on the stuff that makes you awesome as well.

16. If You Don’t Want To Do Something… Be Honest

Tell you friends if you can’t make it to an event, or if you don’t want to go. Don’t just blow people off – you’ll lose them pretty quickly.


6 thoughts on “25 Lessons in 25 Years: 13-16

  1. I came to the understanding late that different people need group/alone time in different amounts to be happy. To “recharge,” as you say, other people actually seek out groups to spend time with. In my 20s I kept wondering why I had to follow up a night out with a group with a day of alone time. No, I can’t go to brunch, morning after, because I need to do my alone time-processing! Important to remember even on vacations–when the together time can be almost constant! Best to learn that while you’re young!

    1. Precisely. I used to work with a guy who got his energy from groups of people, and wanted to be around them all the time. I couldn’t do that, I would be mentally exhausted.

  2. Isabella, I simply love this series. Your pieces speak to me since I find myself in so many of them. I agree with all the points you’ve made in this article. The importance of being kind to myself and treating myself with respect and love is something I have discovered in the past two years. Since then, I have been a much happier person and smile when I look at the mirror. 🙂
    Another thing that is becoming more apparent to me is doing what I love. There is no time like now. And I simply couldn’t wait pursuing what makes me happy rather than pushing it off to “another day” in the future. To be honest, since then, I am feeling much more meaning in my life.
    There really is no time like your 20s. So much to learn and to see. 🙂

  3. Agree with them all, but 13 especially. Spending a fortnight’s holiday with myself, by myself right now, and loving it. I’m with someone I like and get on well with generally (!) and can do some serious thinking as well as indulge myself shamelessly… and by the end I will very much be looking forward to getting back to home and family, and they will be looking forward to seeing me… if you have learned this in your twenties as I did, it will be good for the rest of your existence!

    1. I think for me I’ve always known I liked spending time alone, but as I’ve grown older I’ve discovered it’s okay to not feel guilty about it. We’re always “told” that we should be the life of the party/out and about… but to be honest I find that mentally exhausting! The steps I have taken are things like going to dinner by myself, or out to the cinema. You get some odd looks when you tell people what you’re doing but… hey… whatever!!

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