25 Lessons in 25 Years: 21-24

What did you learn in your twenties? Do you agree with these thoughts and ideas? Let me know in the comments!


21. You Have To Ask In Order To Get

This is something I’ve learned the hard way. We have dream when we’re teenagers that something will just *happen* to us and then everything will begin – our lives will just *start*. But it doesn’t happen. Usually, if you want something you have to work for it and ask people who can help you out. Usually they won’t come to you. Unless you’re a 6″2′ girl with a face like Lily Cole & then you might get approached by a modelling scout. For most of us, we have to put ourselves out there for the things we want – it tends not to just fall in your lap.

22. There Is Nothing Wrong With Taking Up Space

As a woman we’re socially conditioned to take up less space in order to be considered ladylike and feminine. If we’re too loud, confident, physically confident etc. we often attract unwanted attention either from men, or from other women putting us down (again – a weird social conditioning to pit women against one another). There is nothing wrong with taking up space. Don’t say sorry for things that are not your fault, or for being in places you have a perfect right to be.


23. You Cannot Be Happy All The Time

Happiness is a temporary state. That sounds like an incredibly maudlin thing to say but it’s not supposed to be. If we were happy all the time then we wouldn’t realise that we were happy – does that make sense? Happiness is something to strive for because it’s a nice feeling and it makes you feel bubbly inside. But we can’t be like that all the time. So you should strive to be content with peaks of happiness; strive to be comfortable with the capability for joy.

24. There Will Be Moments That Will Take Your Breath Away

There are the moments that are worth all the other stuff that we go through. Whether it’s seeing a vista that takes your breath away, or seeing your crush on the street and then they smile at you. These are the moments of happiness that are temporary but oh so amazed.

6 thoughts on “25 Lessons in 25 Years: 21-24

  1. Love all of these, but especially that you need to ask to get what you want. No one reads minds, and most people are pretty caught up in their own story. Yet, most people are eager to help, if only we give them the opportunity. 💕

  2. I’m also enjoying and agreeing with your posts, though unsure whether I was 25 or older by the time I’d learnt a particular lesson. Re #23, contentment is a word I’ve found myself using a lot, and making a distinction between it and happiness. This may make sense to you, or it may be an older person’s thing…

    1. I think it’s something that I’ve realised to be the case, and I’m still trying to learn, even though sometimes it’s really hard to remember.

  3. Yes, take up space (and screw the haters–but not really). I read a post the other day on body language and it made me think about my own. I talk with my hands. Really, if I had to sit on my hands, I would be struck dumb! Anyone who disses me about it isn’t worth my time. Thanks for these great posts–affirming and inspirational!

    1. Yes we all have little things we do that make us… well us… and we shouldn’t be ashamed of them! I think one thing I’m trying really hard to stop is saying ‘sorry’ when I have a legitimate right to be somewhere, for example on the pavement when stepping out of someone’s way – there’s no need to say sorry. I’m not at fault. It’s just a habit!

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